Divorce can be sudden and unexpected for many people. How you and your children live may change drastically after divorce – and it may be the best thing for your family. Divorce can be a tricky subject to discuss with children, especially if this is the first time they’ve heard the term.
There are a few things you may want to keep in mind when telling your kids their parents won’t be living with each other anymore. Your divorce is going to have a large impact on your children’s lives and how you handle it will have the biggest effect on them. Here’s what you should know:
Talk together in a safe place
One thing parents try to do when talking to their children about divorce is to have everyone present during the conversation. Your children may realize their parents will still be there for them if they see both parents during an emotional talk.
You may want to find the best time to talk to your kids. When and where you break the news to your child may have lifelong effects. Telling your children about your divorce before school, for example, could put them in an uncomfortable situation. On the other hand, talking to your kids at home, during a relaxing time, could give your child the safe place they need to process the news.
Let your kids ask questions
Every child is unique and will focus on different things in their life. Your children may not understand what a divorce is but rather want to know what’s for dinner. Other children may be more interested in understanding what will happen after your divorce – this could depend on the age and maturity of your child.
Letting your child ask questions could benefit their emotional growth. Their questions could be their way of processing your divorce.
You may want to seek legal help if you are looking for a divorce and need to keep the well-being of your children in mind. The steps you take during the divorcing process could help the future of your child.